Ask them where they have traveled in their lives, and then share where you have been. If you haven't traveled, but have desire to travel, mention places that you would like to see. Tell them what motivates you, and what interests you, and what your passions are in life. If you have already talked about some of these things online or over the phone, then bring them up again and ask questions to show that you are not only interested in what they have to say, but also show them that you have been paying attention to what they have said in the past.

You could also talk about friends and family, and where you grew up. But before you do this, make sure that you feel comfortable sharing this kind of information with the other person. Always listen to your inner-voice, because it usually knows what is best for you. Always be Honest and Truthful About Yourself You should always be very honest about who you are and what you are all about in your profile. Never pretend to be something or someone that you are not. Deceitful behavior is one of the best ways to terminate a promising future relationship with someone.

You may feel that you are only telling some white lies, but eventually those lies will catch up to you. The other person will figure out that you have not been completely honest and upfront with them. This can result in a lot of hurt and mistrust with someone that you may be very interested in getting to know better. Be as open and honest as you can be.

The biggest thing to remember is to just be your self. If your date does not like who you are, then they are just not the compatible match for you. You can still leave the date, knowing and feeling good about yourself for being completely honest with them.

Breaking Down the Barriers of Shyness Chances are that we have all been on a date some time in our lives where our partner was shy and not willing to open up with us. So, what do you do in this case to try to break down that wall? In this case, it's important to do whatever you can to make that person feel comfortable and safe. Some people get very nervous if they are stared at for more then a few seconds. They may feel as though their personal space has been invaded, or they are being critically analyzed, or maybe even attacked for not being so talkative.

Try to act relaxed, and don't make them feel bad for being shy. Shyness usually goes away with time, but the best way to lessen it is to make them feel comfortable in your presence.

Think back to their profile, and try to engage them in conversation by asking them questions about things that are important to them or that they are interested in. Listen to what they have to say, and make comments or ask more questions to make them feel more comfortable. This also shows that you are really interested in what they have to say. Having a good sense of humor can sometimes break the ice, and get them to be a little more sociable.

Try telling them a joke, or something funny that happened to you recently. Maybe you could even try telling them a really embarrassing moment that you have had in your life. By showing this part of your self, you are exposing what could be viewed as a weakness to someone who does not know you.

This could open up the willingness of the other person to make comments, or even share something personal about them selves with you. The most important thing to remember is to just be your self and try to have a good time with this person. The Date Doesn't Feel Right What if you feel uncomfortable with your date? Maybe you are just not feeling any chemistry, or maybe you are even feeling somewhat threatened by you date? If any of these feelings occur, then it best to call the date.

Be polite and thank them for coming to meet you. It is always a good idea to carry a cell phone, so that you can call your close friend or family member to let them know that you are calling the date and reasons why you are. It would even be advisable to call them after you have arrived home safely just to ease their mind. The best thing to do is just come right out and ask if they are enjoying themselves. If you tend to be a shy person, this may be very difficult for you to do.

But, remember that this is only the first date, and you may never see this person again, so why not step out of your comfort zone a little and just ask the question? When they answer, you can usually tell by body language or their tone of voice whether they are being truthful or not. If you are having trouble reading that person, then more than likely they are not as comfortable as you are, and may not be having as good a time as you may be. Just remember, there are other fish out there!

Just try to learn from your experiences, and the more dating that you do, the more you will be able to understand other people. Best thing to do in this case is listen to that inner-voice. Could you see yourself going out on a second date with them? If the answer is yes to both of these, then why should the date end here? But, if you answer no to either one of these questions, then it may not be fair of you to accept the offer.

If you truly like the person, then let them know it by accepting the offer to continue the date. Be honest with them, and they will appreciate you for doing so. Ending the Date By the end of the date, you have a better idea of who this person really is, and how you both seem to click or not click.

Women, if you had a good time with the other person, remember to tell them at the end of your date. This not only lets them know that you enjoyed being with them, but it also tells them that you would possibly be receptive to a second date. Men, women also like to hear that you had a good time with them. This usually tells the other person that they are not interested in a second date.

Conclusion The first meeting can be very stressful for some people, but it can also be very thrilling too. Depending on how much time you have vested with someone online, your expectations tend to rise with every day of not meeting that person. Be careful! As stated before, online communication and chemistry can be very different from what your experience is in person.

Dating is supposed to fun, and you should just be yourself and have good time. Try not to hold too high of expectations on the first face-to-face meeting. This not only takes off the pressure on your date, but it also helps you feel more in control of what you are thinking and feeling about this person you are just meeting.

In my personal experience of online dating, if you go in with an open-mind and the desire to just meet this person and have a good time, you can usually come out of the date feeling good about yourself and that other person.

The first date can tell you a lot about a person, as well as show that person a lot about you. Many times you will end up great friends instead of romantic partners. But that is what dating is all about, right?

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Be sure that wherever you decide to meet, it is a public place that is quiet enough for good conversation. Greeting the Other Person for the First Time You are already nervous, anxious, and excited about meeting this person for the first time. So, how do you expect to greet them?

There are many ways to greet a person, but it really is a personal preference as to how you would feel most comfortable. Most often, if you have spent a considerable amount of time getting to know someone, then you are more than likely going to feel very comfortable hugging that person when you first meet.

A woman may even feel comfortable enough to kiss a man on the cheek, where as a man may feel more comfortable just touching the women on the her arm or her shoulder. It all really depends on what kind of chemistry you have felt with this person. Has there been a lot of joking and laughter in your communication with each other? If so, then you would probably feel completely at ease with hugging them when you finally meet. Has the communication been without much humor, and on the more serious level?

In this case, hugging each other at the first meeting may feel to personal. No matter how long you have been getting to know someone, you should just go with what feels right at that time.

Conversation Pieces What types of things should you talk about on your first date? It is advisable that you read over their profile again before you meet. This will allow you to concentrate on what's important to that person, and what that person is most passionate about. Study specific details about this person's interests, and be thinking about questions that could lead into a conversation later in the date.

It is always a good idea to ask some questions that were asked on their personal profiles. Another good conversation starter would be to ask them what their goals are in life.

Discussing subjects like this may open your eyes to who this person really is and what they want out of life. You may even find that you have more in common than you originally thought.

Travel is another fun subject that you could really learn more about each other. Ask them where they have traveled in their lives, and then share where you have been. If you haven't traveled, but have desire to travel, mention places that you would like to see. Tell them what motivates you, and what interests you, and what your passions are in life. If you have already talked about some of these things online or over the phone, then bring them up again and ask questions to show that you are not only interested in what they have to say, but also show them that you have been paying attention to what they have said in the past.

You could also talk about friends and family, and where you grew up. But before you do this, make sure that you feel comfortable sharing this kind of information with the other person. Always listen to your inner-voice, because it usually knows what is best for you. Always be Honest and Truthful About Yourself You should always be very honest about who you are and what you are all about in your profile.

Never pretend to be something or someone that you are not. Deceitful behavior is one of the best ways to terminate a promising future relationship with someone. You may feel that you are only telling some white lies, but eventually those lies will catch up to you.

The other person will figure out that you have not been completely honest and upfront with them. This can result in a lot of hurt and mistrust with someone that you may be very interested in getting to know better. Be as open and honest as you can be. The biggest thing to remember is to just be your self. If your date does not like who you are, then they are just not the compatible match for you.

You can still leave the date, knowing and feeling good about yourself for being completely honest with them. Breaking Down the Barriers of Shyness Chances are that we have all been on a date some time in our lives where our partner was shy and not willing to open up with us.

So, what do you do in this case to try to break down that wall? In this case, it's important to do whatever you can to make that person feel comfortable and safe. Some people get very nervous if they are stared at for more then a few seconds. They may feel as though their personal space has been invaded, or they are being critically analyzed, or maybe even attacked for not being so talkative.

Try to act relaxed, and don't make them feel bad for being shy. Shyness usually goes away with time, but the best way to lessen it is to make them feel comfortable in your presence.

Think back to their profile, and try to engage them in conversation by asking them questions about things that are important to them or that they are interested in. Listen to what they have to say, and make comments or ask more questions to make them feel more comfortable. This also shows that you are really interested in what they have to say. Having a good sense of humor can sometimes break the ice, and get them to be a little more sociable.

Try telling them a joke, or something funny that happened to you recently. Maybe you could even try telling them a really embarrassing moment that you have had in your life. By showing this part of your self, you are exposing what could be viewed as a weakness to someone who does not know you. This could open up the willingness of the other person to make comments, or even share something personal about them selves with you. The most important thing to remember is to just be your self and try to have a good time with this person.

The Date Doesn't Feel Right What if you feel uncomfortable with your date? Maybe you are just not feeling any chemistry, or maybe you are even feeling somewhat threatened by you date? If any of these feelings occur, then it best to call the date. Be polite and thank them for coming to meet you. It is always a good idea to carry a cell phone, so that you can call your close friend or family member to let them know that you are calling the date and reasons why you are.

It would even be advisable to call them after you have arrived home safely just to ease their mind. The best thing to do is just come right out and ask if they are enjoying themselves.

If you tend to be a shy person, this may be very difficult for you to do. But, remember that this is only the first date, and you may never see this person again, so why not step out of your comfort zone a little and just ask the question?

When they answer, you can usually tell by body language or their tone of voice whether they are being truthful or not. If you are having trouble reading that person, then more than likely they are not as comfortable as you are, and may not be having as good a time as you may be. Just remember, there are other fish out there! Just try to learn from your experiences, and the more dating that you do, the more you will be able to understand other people. Best thing to do in this case is listen to that inner-voice.

Could you see yourself going out on a second date with them? If the answer is yes to both of these, then why should the date end here? But, if you answer no to either one of these questions, then it may not be fair of you to accept the offer.

If you truly like the person, then let them know it by accepting the offer to continue the date. Be honest with them, and they will appreciate you for doing so. Ending the Date By the end of the date, you have a better idea of who this person really is, and how you both seem to click or not click.

Women, if you had a good time with the other person, remember to tell them at the end of your date. This not only lets them know that you enjoyed being with them, but it also tells them that you would possibly be receptive to a second date.

Men, women also like to hear that you had a good time with them. This usually tells the other person that they are not interested in a second date. Conclusion The first meeting can be very stressful for some people, but it can also be very thrilling too. Depending on how much time you have vested with someone online, your expectations tend to rise with every day of not meeting that person.

Be careful! As stated before, online communication and chemistry can be very different from what your experience is in person. Dating is supposed to fun, and you should just be yourself and have good time. Try not to hold too high of expectations on the first face-to-face meeting. This not only takes off the pressure on your date, but it also helps you feel more in control of what you are thinking and feeling about this person you are just meeting.

In my personal experience of online dating, if you go in with an open-mind and the desire to just meet this person and have a good time, you can usually come out of the date feeling good about yourself and that other person. The first date can tell you a lot about a person, as well as show that person a lot about you.

Home Online Dating Blog First Phone Conversations in Online Dating. Posted by: Brad. Should I prepare the things I want to talk about?

These are questions a reader asked me recently and he was wondering if recommended handling the first phone call just like I recommend for planning for first date conversations.

Now the first thing I want to say is that early on in my online dating experience I did move from emails to phone calls and then first dates. However, as time went by, I started to avoid phone conversations. Going from emails right to first dates was where I found the most success. I also had a few situations where talking on the phone seemed to encourage us to put off meeting and when we finally met, I was disappointed that the chemistry was lacking.

When I offer advice on the first date, I recommend lots of planning see my post on first date conversations that I mentioned above. Everything on the first date is being scrutinized and awkward silences can be a killer. Try to allow the phone conversation to move along on its own but have your list as a backup. One thing I would recommend is start preparing to move from the phone to the first date.

I remember getting into a situation where I had been talking with a woman on the phone so often that asking her out suddenly felt awkward.

I would prepare in your mind how you want to move from the phone to the first date. This could include things like:. Preparing for and discussing these areas is all about trying to find something they are interested in and then using that as a way to ask for a first date. That sounds awesome. Would you like to grab dinner there this Thursday?

The above might seem like over-thinking things but honestly I found asking women out over the phone could feel very abrupt when done wrong. And then I would jump all over the first chance I had but it would feel like something random when I asked that way and I remember a few women being caught off guard which introduced a bit of awkwardness for us both. The first date is going to be the real measure for potential success in a relationship from my experience.

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I kind of agree with you. I would have some sort of conversation with them over the phone. If that went well, then I would want to meet them at a neutral place and see if anything is there.

I had a situation with some lady where the conversation over the phone did not go well. My gut told me not to call her again. She did a from the conversation over the phone.

I regret not listening to my gut. Online Dating Blog Search this website Home Online Dating Blog First Phone Conversations in Online Dating. First Phone Conversations in Online Dating Posted by: Brad. Phone Calls can be Optional Now the first thing I want to say is that early on in my online dating experience I did move from emails to phone calls and then first dates. First Phone Conversation vs. First Date Conversations When I offer advice on the first date, I recommend lots of planning see my post on first date conversations that I mentioned above.

This can give you time to re-group and better prepare for the next call. On phone calls, you can have their profile up in front of you if you want to. You can also have a list in front of you of things to talk about and no one knows the difference. This could include things like: Bringing up their favorite places to hang out Talking about local events that are happening such as festivals or fairs Discussing favorite restaurants Preparing for and discussing these areas is all about trying to find something they are interested in and then using that as a way to ask for a first date.

About the Author: Brad initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. He met his wife using online dating and has been giving advice and helping people improve their results since He has written a Free Online Dating Guide to help others find success with online dating.

You can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here. Comments 1 Comment 0 Trackback. Scot Gerardi November 5, Hey Brad, I kind of agree with you.

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